Sometimes we (me, this aged, old, decrepit adult) need the insight of an outsider to provide a lifeline when we are floundering in our daily interactions. Their perspective of a relationship is crystal clear, not clouded by feelings and promises.
I’m of the generation where my word amongst friends was taken as my bond and nothing else was needed. This is one trait I still carry all these decades with me. If I say I will be someplace I am there five to 10 minutes early. If I say I will help you you know the job will be completed and then some. If I say I will be there for you, regardless of the day, time or location, I will be waiting.
It took this third party to slap the stupid out of me so I could see I was no longer needed (and probably not wanted but that is a different post) and I should break my promise. So how does one recant their bond? How do you say goodbye without being hurt or hurtful? Hopefully tactful, hopefully gently and without burning any bridges.
The deed done, not to see if there are any fires on the past horizon.
To that third party, to the individual who I now consider a friend, Thank You is insufficient. 😀
Image by @James Woodford